Some Japanese girls: the Gaijin’s hunters

tunimaal 24 June 2012 34
Some Japanese girls: the Gaijin’s hunters

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Here is my article on those that we call Hunters of Gaijin in Japan. These Japanese women looking for foreigners, for the love of all or a day. 

There a little over two weeks ago, I published my article “Japanese girls hunters,” in which I described a behavior of some foreigners. This article has created a lot of reactions. At the time of writing this new article, the hunters of Japanese was commented over 150 times and shared more than 200 times on social networks (facebook, twitter, google +) and read thousands of times.

Today, I propose, therefore the second part of this article. As many have noted, it takes two to play this kind of games. In the first article, I talked about the foreign boys who come to Japan to dredge some Japanese girls. Today, I focus therefore on Japanese girls looking for foreigners. 

In addressing this issue, I suggest you make a point about certain customs in Japan and then to differentiate between two categories of Japanese girls looking for foreigners. Finally I conclude with a portrait to illustrate this article.

Marriage customs in Japan and modern life 

Japan is a very traditional country where customs are still deeply rooted in everyday life, despite the fact that many changes are “forced” by Western culture. Marriage is no exception to that.

In Japan it is known that a girl has to marry rather young to start a family and to ensure the continuity of it. For many, it is called the age of 25 as the age limit for marriage for a girl. I happened to hear the often quoted “a girl of 26 years is like a Christmas cake on Dec. 26, it’s outdated.” This is pretty hard as a phrase, but it is often the facts.

For others, the age limit for marriage to a Japanese girl is 30 years. They must be married, in theory, with the fateful age. Besides, if you have the opportunity to read the book Tokyo Vice by Jack Adelstein, he talks about his meeting with his wife. For the anecdote, he tells us that his wife told him “OK, we go out together, but we must get married before my 30th birthday.” Eventually they married in the last days of his wife 29 years.

So as you understand there an age limit for marriage to be well regarded in Japanese society. But that confronts the current reality and modern.

Indeed, the behavior in Japan tend to change, particularly at young people who are increasingly influenced by the western world. This leads to different perceptions and behaviors related to different love relationships. Moreover, a study by the Japan Family Planning Association in 2011 shows that:

  • 36% of young men aged 16 to 19 say they are disinterested in sex and relationships (+19% since 2008)
  • 59% of girls aged 16 to 19 say they are disinterested in sex and relationships (12% since 2008).

This is because young Japanese women describe men as herbivores. They mean by that they are weak men. They say they want men who act like men.

As for boys, they say that building a relationship is too complicated and it takes work. They even say they do not want to abandon everything they loved to do before just to seduce a girl. 

Finally, new technologies, virtual girlfriends and virtual life in a virtual world take a lot of time to these young Japanese men.

All this, and also sometimes the macho behavior of some Japanese men (who believe that women must stay home and take care of the family) will push some Japanese women to look elsewhere, with Gaijin. They will split into two categories.

Japanese women seeking Gaijin, but not being hunters

This first category is one that will contain Japanese girls of all ages seeking to develop a relationship with a foreigner, for a serious relationship and sustainable. 

As I mention in my article titled The Gaijin Complex, these girls do not want to be confined to the role of housewife and looking for people who can be real gentlemen with them. For these girls, Japanese men, in their majority, can not offer them that.

For other girls, I explain the phenomena above (age limit for marriage, weakness of Japanese young men) drive them to go elsewhere and look, for what they do not find at home, in foreign communities.

These girls are serious, seek normal love relationships in which they can build a family, love their husbands, have children and have the freedoms they feel they can not have with a Japanese husband.

Finally, there remains a sub-category, which corresponds to the girls a little more desperate. They are not the most numerous, but they are girls who can not find true love and have often exceeded the age limit for marriage. Not knowing what to do, they turn to foreigners to get out of this situation and be better accepted by Japanese society.

I also faced this category of persons. When I arrived in Japan in May 2011, I received an invitation from a company organizing speed dating for Japanese women looking for foreign men. What surprised me is the fact that it was free for men. I went there out of curiosity more than anything else. During this event, I found that all these girls were over 30 years and were single for years. Many of them seemed really desperate and willing to take everything that occurred to them. One thing that surprised me at the time, but I understood the reasons over time. 

The hunters of Gaijin 

This second category speaks about Japanese girls seeking for foreign men to use them, manipulate them, enjoy and dispose of them as they are useless. These are not the most numerous, but the most visible because they show themselves to the eyes of the Gaijin.

These girls go in the parties, flirt openly with the Gaijin and use them to get paid what they want, get gifts, and even travel for some of them, and finally separate from their love of one day when she find better elsewhere. These are often those who seek hunters of Japanese girls because they know that they spend money for them.

Moreover, very often these girls believe that foreigners are submissive because for them gentlemen means a person who does what you want. They often think that these men can be used as they see fit. However, they soon realize that this is not the case.

These girls are venal and seek in priority people to pay for them. Very often, in conversation, they will ask you what is your work and what are your incomes. These are not innocent questions.

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Night Party in Tokyo

These girls are often seen in Roppongi, in the evening, in nightclubs where they will drive out and hunt for some Gaijin, who will do the same. They also use other methods such as language exchange (although this is rare).

Here is a story that had happened in June 2011. On a Japanese advertising site I found an ad whose title was “looking for a French person for language exchange in French – Japanese.” For me it was the chance to learn Japanese for free while teaching French to a person. Furthermore, it allowed me to meet someone. I always do that in all countries where I traveled.

So I answered to the ad. The person answered back. She answered in an e-mail telling me who she was and what she did for a living (passions, work …). She then asked me to do the same. I introduced myself and told him I was doing a world tour since November 2009. She then said “sorry but my boyfriend has to have a real job and good pay. Goodbye “.… I remember I answered an ad for language exchange!!!

Portrait of Koyo 

To illustrate what are the hunters of Gaijin, I offer a portrait of Koyo, a Japanese girl I met in Tokyo. For reasons of respect for her privacy, her identity elements have been changed. 

I try to put myself in her mind and give you her thoughts:

“Hello, my name is Koyo, I’m 29 and I’m Japanese. I am a girl who dreams of living in New Yorkbecause I think it’s the most beautiful city in the world to live. For me the foreigners are better than the Japanese because they are submissive and do everything to please us.

For me, the ideal is a good American, well muscled and speaks good English. He must make a good living so I do not go to work. After all, this is the man to pay for everything. He will fill me with gifts, serve me, make me happy and think of my happiness. His own happiness is not important, but mine YES.

For me the Americans are the best because they are the ones who made us discover the freedom of life and thatJapanwas a backward country.

I want to get married before my 30th birthday, no matter with whom as long as he is as a Gaijin and he earns good money and he fills me with gifts. “

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Koyo

As you will understand, this girl is venal, unscrupulous and especially self-centered. She thinks that Gaijin are toys at her disposal for use as it sees fit.

Besides these girls think, very often, that living in the U.S. is a must, especially in Los Angeles or New York. God knows why!!!

I met this girl, who really exists and that kept telling me this speech without any remorse, 2 or 3 times. In April 16, 2012, she sent me a message to take some news from me. I told her that I was going back to France and here what she send me back (word for word):

“Oh really? i maybe miss you. i can see you at the love hotel around shinjyuku by your treating”. 

When I read that, I was surprised. Surprised by the message content, surprised by the proposal and surprised by the fact that she was expecting me to pay for this kind of thing. I did not answer that because it is indecent, inappropriate and disrespectful. To add, this girl had a boyfriend at that time. Here is what is a hunter of  Gaijin in Japan.

And you what do you think? Have you faced this kind of person? Have you experienced situations of this kind or another? Go ahead and let you express me your opinion.

34 Comments »

  1. Kent Middlemarch-Byron 6 July 2012 at 22 h 10 min - Reply

    I think my wife has mentioned this to me sometime ago. She’s Japanese, and she knew of Gaijin hunters (she’s not one of them though, we met in Illinois during college and never got separated since). She pretty much confirms some of what this article says, though what she said was there weren’t a lot of them around. Regardless, I was still surprised when I read this article. This is some piece of information, I think I’ll be reading your previous blog next.

    • tunimaal 7 July 2012 at 3 h 26 min - Reply

      Hi Kent,

      thanks for your comment. Yeah, as your wife told you, they are not so much of them, but unfortunately we definitly see them around a lot, when wwe are Gaijin.

  2. Mark 9 July 2012 at 10 h 33 min - Reply

    Yes, I can never understand the total fascination of the Japanese, especially young women, with New York. Of course it is an interesting place and a great city. But for some Japanese it seems that the English speaking world (maybe the whole western world) starts and ends with New York.
    It is particularly hard to understand when many of them live in Tokyo, which is more than a match for New York in so many ways.

    • tunimaal 9 July 2012 at 14 h 59 min - Reply

      Yeah Mark, I definitly agree with you. Every time I’m just like “Why do you love NY so much, you never been there? What’s so special about that city? Please tell me!!!!” :D

  3. rmk 23 July 2012 at 8 h 03 min - Reply

    Never heard the expression “gaijin hunter”, but heard the one 外専 gaisen (ie. “specialized in gaijin”) a lot haha.

    I guess it depends where you hang out : in places that are obviously “gaijin-friendly” (pubs, international parties, Shibuya/Roppongi clubs), chances to meet people interested by foreigners are logically higher.
    If you go to more local places (let’s say, mm…, Nishi-Nippori rather than Roppongi ;) ), and speak japanese, you’ll meet very different people, most of them having no romantic inclination towards foreigners…

    I guess you just meet who you deserve ;)

    • tunimaal 23 July 2012 at 14 h 19 min - Reply

      Ah I didn’t know about that expression. Thanks for sharing :D

      Yeah, I agree with you, we meet who we deserve…

  4. rmard 16 August 2012 at 11 h 00 min - Reply

    Today I just googled ‘gaijin’ for my presentation material, and somehow I ended up in this website. Very interesting article. Well, maybe because I live in smaller city (Nagoya) I did not encounter this type of people as many as in Tokyo. But I do meet quite a lot of girls who fall in the first cluster. But, I think sometimes it leads to the discrimination of foreigner as well. I mean, it won’t work so many times for any non-western foreigner (yeah, you know because we do not have blonde hair or blue/green eyes, etc… even though we do speak English fluently). Like one time, I joined some activities of a club at my university who address themselves as “international-student friendly group” or something. But it quite surprised me that I didn’t feel as welcome as some other western guys. I do not know if this is related to what you discussed here, but just want to share what I am thinking. :)

    • tunimaal 24 November 2012 at 1 h 25 min - Reply

      Hi mard, thanks a lot for sharing your story with us. I’ve never heard of this before but thanks a lot. I think there are some many different kinds of stories about between Japanese and foreigners ;-)

  5. Rai 3 January 2013 at 9 h 48 min - Reply

    Wow, reading this, I cant help but think of how similar Koyo was to my ex gf from Osaka. So obsessed with L.A. and US media. In her mind America was nothing but NY and LA, her closet contained nothing but Hip hop dance magazines and movies. I started to feel like she only dated me because Im African American (everyone knows the stereotypes from Japan). She didnt say it but she had an expectation of me to support her 100% but she barely did much for me when I had problems. Even expected me to do everything when I was with her in Japan, knowing my Japanese is horrible. Selfish, childish, and I felt more like her dad than a bf. Recently she told me she plans to quit her decent job as a travel agent to study 1yr hip hop dancing in….you guessed it, LA -_-. Hoping she’ll get a dancing job and no idea nor care for what she’ll do when she returns to Japan.

    • tunimaal 10 February 2013 at 6 h 53 min - Reply

      Hi Rai,

      thanks a lot for sharing your experience with us.

      I think this kind of situation does happen a lo in Japan. Don’t really know why, but it does happen.

      Any way, thanks again for sharing with us ;-)

  6. Tacha 20 March 2013 at 17 h 33 min - Reply

    Hii, this was very interesting! I had heard of such hunters before, but have met someone who’s experienced it (haha).
    But so, i was just wondering: if there are Japanese girls who do such thing, does that aslo go for the boys? xo

  7. Yosef 20 March 2013 at 20 h 08 min - Reply

    Hi,

    Here are some of my thoughts,

    Girls no matter from where are kinda ok they are self-centered & want to be treated like daddies princes always.

    Even in the Mideast girls are fascinated by Western Culture. Especially the rights that the Feminine Movement provided for them i.e. Money, acting like Men…(the more rights they have the less rights we had!!!) and then they complain why aren’t we Macho enough! >_<!

    Another point is that people like to change so even though they never seen the US people (humanoid) love/desperate for change for better or worse for some reason.

    Hey I am a Middle Eastern u've properly figured that out, you reckon I have a chance hooking up with a Jap girl oh I should say Japanese lol some ppl feel offended.

    I wonder if getting married to a Japanese girl is better than a Middle Eastern!

    Or do you think Cohabitation is better? I read too many Jap/American Marriage Dramas. E.g. she ran with the kids back to Japan never to see them again…

    One last thought:
    Men think with their emotions altruism which is tiresome, Women Calculate everything "Money, owning stuff" selfishness.

    Love n Peace from the Middle East (+^_^=)! Not sure when the second part (peace) is gona happen though!

    Sayonara , Ja Ma , & Salam Alaikum

    • tunimaal 21 March 2013 at 7 h 32 min - Reply

      Hi Yosef,

      thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      I think you should not put all the girls in the same bucket, but still I do agree on some points with you. Many girls, from many countries are attracted to Western men because they have this image of freedom.

      I don’t know if it is worst or better to get married to a Japanese lady or Middle East one. Actually, for me it doesn’t depend on were she is from but who she is. I think, when you get married with somebody from another culture you must take this under consideration: cultures are different and it can make troubles if you forget it. I think this is why many foreigners married with Japanese do divorce after a while, because they forgot that.

  8. Jimmy 8 April 2013 at 21 h 19 min - Reply

    Hi – Interesting article. The minds of some Japanese girls are quite complex. This may include “plots” quietly implanted in their minds when they date and/or marry a gaijin. The threshold age of 30 is quite true. A few Japanese guys told me that if a Japanese girl cannot get marry before 30, it means something wrong with her (character else, etc) and Japanese men are staying away and not offering to date or marry her. Gaijin who are newcomers to Japan perhaps need to be aware of these, else they can be “tricke”, “used”, or “disposed”. However, bad and good Gaijin hunters exist. Japanese girls who are decently educated abroad, speak English and with good family background may have no such complications, and they come with pure and kind hearts, who love to live with a blend of western and Japanese cultures. Such girls are not easy to find though..

    • tunimaal 9 April 2013 at 10 h 25 min - Reply

      Hi Jimmy
      thanks a lot for your comment and your opinion. Yes it is really complex and hard to understand and analyse. There are so many things to take under considerations.

      Anyway, there are good girls and bad girls in like every single country I think. It’s just that here everything is so different but the same at the same time.

  9. Reff 9 April 2013 at 11 h 04 min - Reply

    Hi! Thank you for sharing this information. Any opinion about Japanese guy? “Japanese people are often being sweet and we can confuse that as interest.”.. hahahaha.

    • tunimaal 11 April 2013 at 10 h 45 min - Reply

      About Japanese guy, they are different and I will, probably, write an article about them ;-)

  10. アッシュ 28 June 2013 at 21 h 43 min - Reply

    Yes, I have had experience with gaijin lovers. And guys, or girls, don’t pursue these people. It may be fun at first, but it will hurt when you realise that they don’t care about you. They only love you superficially, as a foreigner. Once the novelty of that wears off, you’re nothing to them. There’s plenty of lovely Japanese people, don’t date the gaijin lovers.

    • tunimaal 30 June 2013 at 16 h 40 min - Reply

      Yes, what you are saying is right. But many people don’t realize it until it’s too late.

  11. Caleb 24 July 2013 at 5 h 48 min - Reply

    Thanks for writing this. I have a dream to live in Japan one day, and one thing that scares me is the idea of some woman trying to manipulate me. I wanted to know what to look for, and how to avoid it, and this article probably saved me a lot of heart-ache in the long run. Thanks sir.

    • tunimaal 25 July 2013 at 13 h 09 min - Reply

      You’re welcome ;-)

  12. Ralf 2 August 2013 at 12 h 02 min - Reply

    Oh, so THIS are japanese Prostitutes who gajin men can meet ;)

    When I was in Japan i could not go in the prostitutes
    houses because they were only for japanese men.

    Now I know: I go to Roppongi and meet these prostis for gajin ;)

    • tunimaal 19 August 2013 at 13 h 38 min - Reply

      They are not prostitutes, where did you see that??????

  13. Opium 8 August 2013 at 6 h 16 min - Reply

    Are there guy gaijin hunters? And what if you’re part Asian but look more Asian?

    • tunimaal 19 August 2013 at 13 h 39 min - Reply

      Yes there are, as I said I wrote an article about them ;-)

  14. John 15 August 2013 at 20 h 01 min - Reply

    If she offered to go to a love hotel, she is probably not a “hunter,” but a Delivery Health (or other Mizu Shobai) girl who hunts part time a better life. Mizu Shobai are girls of the night (sex trade). There are different kinds: Hostesses, Soapland, Delivery Health, and others.

    Hostesses are modern geisha. They keep you company and entertain you, but dont have sex (though some do). In exchange, you buy drinks and she gets commission from what you buy. Soap Land girls will bath you and do frotting with you. They may negotiate sex for extra pay in private with you. Delivery Health is a sex delivery service. You call and ask for the girl of your choice off a menu. She comes (with a guard) to the love hotel for oral sex. Intercourse is illegal and not allowed, but they will negotiate with you behind closed doors for extra.

    Many sex trade girls also what other girls want: A husband & family, but no Japanese men will marry them when they find out their secret. They want the Pretty Woman dream (from the movie Richard Gere & Julia Roberts).

    • tunimaal 19 August 2013 at 13 h 45 min - Reply

      She is definitly not a Delivery Health but 100% a hunter. I knew her before that episode and I can confirm it. She has a normal life, a great job but she just doesn’t like Japanese men at all.

  15. ilias 19 November 2013 at 8 h 54 min - Reply

    It was funny to read!Thank you!I am from Kyrgyzstan.I have had experience studying in shanghai and had a lot of korean,japanese classmates,and all of them looking at westren looking guy like king,i consider if western guy ask them have sex in school toilet,they go for it without any hesistation=)

    • tunimaal 28 November 2013 at 15 h 28 min - Reply

      Hello Ilias,

      at the end it’s the same every where. As long as you are different you sill have more sucess ;-)

  16. Joseph 30 December 2013 at 6 h 05 min - Reply

    I’ve experienced much the same in both Korea as
    well as in Japan.
    The wicked irony is that the western men who go to japan know about these women, and the man is fully prepared to throw down several hundred (or even a few thousand) to get their attention…ie get laid.
    And then he hops on the JR Line to the next city or on a plane back to the US, UK, etc lol.

    • tunimaal 7 January 2014 at 15 h 19 min - Reply

      Yeah I heard that in Korea it’s getting the same way as in Japan … “poor” guys :D

  17. John 7 January 2014 at 17 h 02 min - Reply

    Ah, but the thing is that they’re not supposed to drop any money to “get laid.” Otherwise, they wouldn’t be hunters per se. The idea of the “hunter” is that they like foreign men and would happily bed with them freely. Well, aside from dating costs, etc.

    • tunimaal 17 February 2014 at 11 h 08 min - Reply

      Yeah certainly

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